What to say to my ex?

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Tyzer

Discussion Starter · Sep 29, 2006

I'm meeting my ex girlfriend for a chat after work this evening and I dunno what to say to her

She told me a few days ago that after we split up she realised she loved me and that she still loves me now. She was going to tell me how she felt a few weeks ago but she bottled it

It gets more complicated with the fact that since then she has got a boyfriend and I'm kind of seeing someone.

I'm pissed off that she told me she loves me as it's complicated things.

Help!

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wedgedout

· #2 · Sep 29, 2006

Don't think about it, start will hello, take it from there

Jenocide

· #3 · Sep 29, 2006

It only complicates things if you still love her too, if you don't you just need to tell her you are flattered but that, although you like her, you don't have such strong feelings for her, and you think it would be better if you just carried on as you are.

If you do love her, then its up to you to decide what you want

Frauline Anna

· #4 · Sep 29, 2006

I wonder how he'd feel about that revelation.

Do you love her? That's the question. If you both love eachother then she'll leave him and you guys will live happily evAr after.

KS

· #5 · Sep 29, 2006

Welcome to life... It's never easy. Only you and you alone know if you love her. Analyse why you split up and ask yourself would that reason become an issue again. Good luck!

Tyzer

Discussion Starter · #6 · Sep 29, 2006

I love her and yes she knows

invalidusername

· #7 · Sep 29, 2006

You just have to decide if you've moved on. If you have, it should be quite easy. If you haven't, it should be quite easy too

Icky

· #8 · Sep 29, 2006

so let me get this straight
you say now you loved me all along?
what made you hesitate?
to tell me with words what you really feel
i can see it in your eyes you mean all of what you say
i remember so long ago, see i felt that same way
now we both have separate lives and lovers
insignificantly enough we both have significant others

only time will tell
time will turn and tell

we aren't who we were then
who knew what we know, now?
could've been more but at least you're still my day late friend
we aren't who we were then

but thoughts they change and times they rearrange i don't know who you are anymore
loves come and go and this i know i'm not who you recall anymore
but i must confess you're so much more then i remember
can't help but entertain these thoughts
thoughts of us together

we aren't who we were then
who knew what we know, now?
could've been more but at least you're still my day late friend
we aren't who we were then

my day late friend

so let me get this straight
all these years and you were no where to be found
and now you want me for your own
but you're a day late and my love, she's still renowned
we aren't who we were then
could've been lovers but at least you're still my day late friend

:crazy:

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alfietinker

· #9 · Sep 29, 2006

Obviously I don't know the situation but you need to go by your own feelings. Do you love her too? (Don't have to answer that). Were you happy seeing her or did it make you miserable and that's why you split?

If you're thinking of getting back with her you need to confirm your own feelings and reasons - not just hers. Or the situation could get very complicated.

Equally if you've decided it's all over, and have no feelings for her anymore then you need to make that clear, not go back to her if you won't be happy just to save her feelings of because of the 'it could be good if we work at it' factor.

:hug:

NEMO

· #10 · Sep 29, 2006

sounds like you both know the score mate. best of luck

Chong

· #11 · Sep 29, 2006

Get straight down to it.

Chong

Tyzer

Discussion Starter · #12 · Sep 29, 2006

She's not going to split with her boyfriend.

Which is making me wonder why she told me she loves me in the first place

alfietinker

· #13 · Sep 29, 2006

Tyzer said:
I love her and yes she knows

You still need to be happy though....... Love doesn't always mean you can be. Can't live with and can't live without if you know what I mean.

If she's saying she loves you it's also not fair on her boyfriend - she needs to sort that one out or she'll be hurting more than one person.

Frauline Anna

· #14 · Sep 29, 2006

Tyzer said:
She's not going to split with her boyfriend.

Which is making me wonder why she told me she loves me in the first place

That's naughty. She's stringing you along then. If she really loved you she'd move heaven and earth to be with you. IMHO.

alfietinker

· #15 · Sep 29, 2006

Tyzer said:
She's not going to split with her boyfriend.

Which is making me wonder why she told me she loves me in the first place

Mmmm...... sounds like she's not being fair and starting to play games.

wedgedout

· #16 · Sep 29, 2006

Tyzer said:
She's not going to split with her boyfriend.

Which is making me wonder why she told me she loves me in the first place

Oh god, sounds like a head fuck! sorry :hug:

fuchs lee

· #17 · Sep 29, 2006

You don't need to make a decision today and keep an open mind.

:group:

Tyzer

Discussion Starter · #18 · Sep 29, 2006

alfietinker said:
Mmmm...... sounds like she's not being fair and starting to play games.

Glad I'm not the only one who thinks that.

I'd feel less pain if I banged my head against the wall :lol:

DubberSmudge

· #19 · Sep 29, 2006

Personally I wouldn't turn up, as I don't like to be messed around. If she really feels the way she does, what's she doing with another chap, surely she'd finish it? Tread warily my friend, it seems you may be being taken for a bit of a ride.

invalidusername

· #20 · Sep 29, 2006

And don't forget, if you don't feel ready to talk with her, you don't have to go. Only do it if you feel ready mate

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